YES, Dads experience postpartum depression and anxiety too!
Postpartum depression in dads is more common than you might think
Even though most people have heard of postpartum depression and anxiety, you may not know that non-birthing parents can experience it also. In fact, at least 1 in 10 dads experience postpartum depression, and it is believed that that number is underreported.
Often, the huge changes that come with a new baby include loss of sleep, lack of support, and feelings of overwhelm that can all add up to increased possibility of postpartum depression. Some dads may be at increased risk, especially those who have had anxiety or depression in the past, or if their partner is depressed, and they have a lack of support.
What does postpartum depression look like in new dads?
Irritability
Sadness
Not engaging with the baby
Difficulty sleeping
Anger
Thoughts of not doing enough or being enough
Isolating from family
Thoughts of wanting to hurt himself or die
What does postpartum anxiety look like in new dads?
Excessive, or persistent, worring about life and the future
Feeling nervous or restless
Feelings of dread or impending doom
Panic Attacks
obsessive thoughts, and/or taking actions to try to stop the distressing thoughts
It is important to screen new dads for post-partum mood and anxiety disorders, and to know that these conditions are highly treatable. Feeling sad, angry, frustrated, or inadequate can all be normal experiences in early weeks after delivery, but if these feelings or thoughts persist, or intensify to the point that it is getting in the way of meaningful relationships, work, or other important aspects of life then it may be time to seek mental health support.
Postpartum depression & anxiety affects the whole family
Post-partum depression and anxiety in new dads doesn’t just affect dad. Left untreated, PPD in Dads is also linked to more strained relationships and increased family stress, poorer health for the baby, less frequent well visits for baby, increased risk of mental health issues for family members including baby, and behavioral problems in daycare or elementary school. By supporting non-birthing parents’ health, you are also supporting the family’s health.
Finally, if you have a new dad in your life, check in on him, ask him how he is feeling, bring meals or offer to clean the house, walk the dog, or even watch the baby while he (and mom) get some sleep. It takes a village, after all.